I pride myself on being an open and caring person. But I have to admit that sometimes I am not the best at dealing with my emotions. There are times where I want to just tell The Husband how I feel and that be it. Although I know that really isn’t possible. Cause of course in relationships especially marriages you can’t just say something and completely walk away. Because I struggle with expressing myself sometimes I have the tendency to wait until I am fed up before I speak on something that is bothering me. I call these “drop mic” moments. Drop mic usually means when you are on stage at an event that requires a microphone you say something either amazing or shocking, drop the mike, and then walk off. For me this means just dumping whatever is on my chest off. But I know that isn’t the right way to handle things. So I am working on doing more talking rather than waiting until I get fed up.
A drop mic situation can be done in different ways. If you send your spouse a text filled with something that is bothering you and then you refuse to respond to them because you are angry which isn’t giving them a chance to either acknowledge your feelings, apologize, or explain themselves then you are having a drop mic moment. Not saying that you can’t calm down and then come back to it later but to just drop the situation and never address it then yeah you are having a drop mic moment. If you are like me and hold things in until you can’t take it anymore then you are having a drop mic moment. The truth is these moments actually don’t belong in relationships. I know they will be had though. But here are the reasons that I don’t think they belong in relationships especially mine.
- It doesn’t solve anything: Just dropping information on someone and walking away won’t solve your problem. It will still be there when you come back.
- It’s disrespectful: Okay it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure this out. But yeah if you don’t like it done to you don’t do it to anyone else. I hate when a issue comes up and rather than deal with it I am told what is wrong and then ignored. I’ve done it to The Husband and he has done to me. It eventually gets worked out but yeah it doesn’t feel good.
- It’s not a great form of communication: The person can still miss the message. In fact it can turn into a much bigger argument because of the way you delivered your problem.
I don’t claim to be an expert. I just noticed something about myself that I thought that I would share with you. All I am saying is that it is better to try to deal with a problem. I am not saying it is not okay to walk away. It’s also not okay to just drop a big bomb and then leave the person to deal with it. Just don’t drop the mic. It sometimes makes things final.
Have you ever had a drop mic situation?