Today I was sitting at my computer trying my hardest to come up with a topic to write about on my blog. Each topic I came up with became a no. Why? Because as I thought about each topic a thousand questions began to run through my mind. What if no one likes it? What if no one reads it? What if people say something mean about it? What if someone else has already written about what I’m writing about? You see questions like this run through my mind every time I have to make a decision. I have yet to figure out why. My main question usually is what if someone gets angry at me. If you haven’t guessed it by now I’m an overthinker. I’m that person who can’t give a simple yes or no to a simple question. Now most times if you ask me to my face I’ll say something like let me get back to you or anything that gives me time to go through my thought process. Over the phone and online it is easier. I still say the same thing but I feel more comfortable with it.
Much of my overthinking occurs when it comes to something that will involve me doing something for myself. The thing that most sticks in my mind is how it will affect my husband, myself, or my kids. I have the hardest time being ok with putting myself first. I don’t want to upset anyone or feel like they aren’t getting what they need from me. Sometimes, it becomes an all-day thought process. I’m even embarrassed to say that I once took two days to decide whether or not to do something for myself. Other times, it is because I’m a worrier and I always want things to go just right. In fact, to try and put myself at ease, I try to figure out how everything will end up before I make a decision.
Bad, right? It’s exhausting too. Because in my mind, I always think about the worst thing that could possibly happen, and even though it hasn’t happened yet, it makes my brain go into overdrive about how to combat these issues before they have, or will, even happen. I just don’t know how to stop overthinking. If I carry on thinking like this, it will have a significant impact on my health. It already has. I find that I am stressed and anxious about a lot of things. Maybe I need to consider doing something different to improve these thoughts. For example, my friend suffered from a lot of stress from her overthinking and in the end decided to look for the best CBD products in UK, which is where she is based, to relieve these emotions. After several attempts, she started seeing improvements and she is much more relaxed about everything, including the important decisions she needs to make for her and her family. Seeing the way she is now is certainly a pretty good testament to products like these cbd edibles wholesale and how they can really make a difference to people’s lives, and I am so pleased that she now has something she can rely on when things get a little overwhelming.
I wish it was that easy for me. Maybe it is. I just haven’t tried it yet. I think that a good place to start would be to share some things that you should know about an overthinker, regardless of whether you are one or know someone who is. They are:
- We wish we could make quick decisions.
- We find bit being able to make decisions annoying.
- Our indesciviness comes from fear, anxiety, stress, or just feeling overwhelmed.
- We want to make sure our decisions don’t hurt anyone.
- We are perfectionist. We want everything to go perfectly and be positive.
- We have a fear of things going wrong. We try our best to predict a positive outcome even though sometimes it isn’t positive or going to end well.
I for one am working on this because being so cautious and worrisome has been making me miss out on some great opportunities. Mainly because sometimes by the time I’ve made a decision time has by and I’ve missed it.
Are you an overthinker? How do you deal with it?