When I was pregnant with both my kids I was just like any other pregnant woman I wondered about the little person who was inside me. I wondered who they were going to look like, were they going to have hair or not, what kind of personality they were going to have, and a list of other things. I had things I wanted for them. I wanted them to be smart, happy, and just great kids. Now that they are here and I have the pleasure of seeing them grow right before my eyes I am happy to say that I have all that and more. They are truly wonderful kids. I love seeing them come into their own each and every day. I see how they are like The Husband and I in so many ways.
While I love to see my personality in them there are some of my personality traits that I don’t want them to have. I just think that without these traits they can avoid learning some of the lessons that I had to learn. I wish they could avoid learning any lessons where they have to be hurt in order to learn the lesson. Here are six traits that I don’t want my kids to get from me.
- People pleasing: It took me years to learn that putting other’s happiness before mine was not the way to live life. Most times you have to make yourself happy before you can make anyone else happy.
- Low Self-esteem: I want my kids to love who they are. I don’t want them to let what others think of them to bring them down. I want them to be confident enough to own who they are no matter what. I still struggle with this as an adult. Now I am getting to the point where I just don’t care.
- Self-doubt: I want my kids to never regret their decisions. I want them to be comfortable with every decision that they make. Self-doubt prevents you from living life. I wish I could go back and do some of the things that I wanted to do instead of letting fear and doubt make my decision for me.
- Procrastination: Okay now I know you have seen a couple of posts about this on my blog. I want my kids to never and I do mean never pick up this habit. I want them to know that the saying “Time is money ” is so true. It isn’t just money either. You miss a lot of opportunities putting things on the back burner all the time.
- Overthinking: I swear I wish I had never picked up this trait. It has made me miss so many opportunities. I want to know that everything does not need to be a long thought process. Sometimes if it feels right you should go with it and if it feels wrong then you shouldn’t is all the information that you need. If you constantly overthink that is how you miss life changing opportunities.
- Complacent: I want them to never become complacent. Being too comfortable where you are can stunt growth. I want them to experience life. Life is about enjoying it and creating new experiences. Not to say you can’t ever be comfortable but you have to be open to new experiences. When you become to complacent life just kind of pass you by.
These are just a few of the traits that I don’t want them to have. I have more but it will make this post way too long. I am seeing some of them but I try my best to guide them through it. I want them to be great people but even more great to themselves. I actually prefer that they experience these things as teenagers so that they can become even better and stronger adults. Dealing with these things as adults is just rough. Do you have a trait that you don’t want your kids to have?