Sometimes I suck in the wife department. I tend to drop the ball in the romance department. I can use as many excuses as I want. I’m tired. I’ve gotten busy. But the truth is I’ve never been that great at romance. I don’t know why. When I try I feel pretty awkward. Where it comes easy for most it doesn’t come that easy to me. I am pretty sure it is because I go in with the expectation that he either isn’t going to like my attempt or I am going to look crazy. He has always been better in the romance department than me. He is a very creative guy. He has surprised me with gifts and can be very sweet.
Usually when I try to get romantic things end up like this:
I have to remind myself that my husband stills likes to be wooed as much as I do. All men actually do. They like surprises like us women do. My lack of confidence has really affected all areas of my life and I never realized it until now. I also tend to overthink things. Now I am challenging myself to do better in that area. Even if it is just planning a small date for us. He is usually the planner for most things that we do. I guess I’m so used to him planning things that my efforts have fallen by the wayside. I admit it. When we were dating I was a little more romantic than I am now. So I think it’s time that I work back towards that. Then it is also me focusing on all the things that I don’t have. I am not as small as I used to be. But I want to be even better than I was before. I know sometimes it is just about the effort. But I want him to enjoy my effort. I want to surprise him with gifts. I just want to show him that I love him as much as he loves me. I just have to learn to stop questioning myself in everything that I do.
If you are like me you totally understand where I am coming from. We get so use to someone else taking the reins in certain areas of our lives that we just never take the reins ourselves. So I am vowing to take the reins in more areas of my life including being more romantic. I want him to know that I think of him. I think I am going to start by planning a date. I am definitely going to do something. I think it will be fun to see what I can come up with.
Who is the more romantic one in your relationship?