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One thing I’m really working on this year is focusing on myself mentally. Things like my overthinking and anxiety. To be honest my anxiety mainly comes when I overthink. I try to think everything through before I make a decision. I try to think of every possible outcome there is. Usually when I do this I talk myself out of doing whatever it is that I’m thinking about doing because I don’t know exactly how it will work out. The list of things I’ve given up on because I didn’t think it was going to turn out well is pretty long.
I really am over not doing anything because I can’t figure out the outcome. But I really am afraid of failure. I’m realizing though that sometimes you actually have to fail before you succeed. Failure gives you a chance to learn from your mistakes and improve. Besides you can’t always know how something is going to turn out if you don’t try.
I would rather conquer this thing rather than continue to miss out on opportunities because I’m scared. I’m tired of being this way. So I’m trying a few things that I think will help.
- Writing what I’m scared of: When I feel myself over thinking something I write down what is scaring me. I find this as a really calming effect on me. Once I get everything out of my head I’m usually able to move forward.
- Don’t think just do it: Sometimes I just force myself to do whatever it is that I’m scared of doing. I don’t give myself a chance to think about it. Cause of course if I give myself room to think about it, I’m not going to do it.
- Put it on a calendar: if I put something on my calendar to do it I am more apt to do it. Because I scheduled it.
These things have worked so far. But another thing I am considering doing is going to talk to a therapist to see why I am the way I am. I know I’m not the only one with these issues. But sometimes it feels that way because some people just don’t understand. I actually envy people who can just try new things without overthinking. My husband is one of them. It seems like he gets an idea and just go with it. If it fails he tries something else. While me it will take me some time to try something else. Cause it is like why try something else if the first thing didn’t work.
I haven’t tried therapy for a variety of reasons. One being that I thought it costs a lot. But after talking to a friend who goes to therapy herself I have learned it really doesn’t cost as much as I thought it would, especially with health insurance. She also told me that it helps to have someone that isn’t really close to you to talk to. She told me it has helped her deal with some issues that she has had in her past. After talking with her, I really feel more comfortable about pursuing therapy for myself. It would help to get answers to the many questions that I have and also to just understand myself better. For example, why am I so indecisive, why am I a people pleaser, why am I scared to argue, why do I procrastinate, and just so many more questions that I have. I think I have some answers but it would help to have some things confirmed.
Right now, I am looking for a therapist that fit my needs. I just want someone who really knows how to help me. One place that I am considering is Ray of Hope Counseling Services. They have many counseling services (and expertise) that they offer. You can get individual counseling, family counseling, marriage counseling, and you can even get counseling for your young children. They have several locations around Georgia – 8, in fact. They even have online counseling if you can’t make it into the office. Administrative hours are from 8:30am-7:00pm Monday-Friday and some locations also offer weekend appointments. So, if you are searching for a therapist in Lawrenceville GA, Marietta, Alpharetta, Athens, or if you live in the overall Atlanta area, I would recommend checking them out. I haven’t checked them out yet but I will let you all know if I do.