I am notorious for letting things slide. I can be in a room with someone who is has mistreated me and I will just let that big elephant walk around. All my life I have been a bit on the quiet side when it comes to standing up for myself. It got even worse when I started being bullied. Sometimes things would hurt me so much that I would just internalize whatever bothered me. Instead of standing up for myself I would just be quiet. There are people in my life who still don’t know that they have said or did anything to hurt me. So when things change they don’t really understand why that is. It doesn’t help that the few times I have stood up for myself people just overlooked it or laughed at me because they weren’t used me to doing it. They are so used to me being quiet that it is actually funny to them that I am trying to do it.
I also like to consider people’s feelings. I know I’ve written that before. But once you realize that the person’s feelings that you are worried about didn’t carry about your feelings when they said or did whatever you kind of set that aside. I have recently started speaking up for myself a little bit more and man can I tell you it feels so good. Once I figured out that I didn’t have to be rude, disrespectful, or harsh all the time I realized it was okay to stand up for myself. You just have to let people know what you will and won’t accept. I am learning the more you are quiet the more you are saying it’s okay even when it’s not. People aren’t always great at reading body language. Most times they really don’t care.
But what’s really important is that you start to speak up for yourself. It really doesn’t matter whose feeling you hurt cause when they said whatever they said about you. I am encouraging you to please stand up for yourself. Don’t let things fester cause it could come out in other ways that you don’t want. That elephant in the room will get bigger and bigger and will eventually fill the room. It is definitely okay to stand up for yourself. You don’t have to let everything slide.