I am beginning to realize that sometimes certain relationships can be energy suckers. You put all this effort into a relationship and nothing seems to improve. This could be a friendship, business, or anything. They become energy suckers because you are so focused on making them happy that you aren’t focused on anything else. You are giving them your time, your energy, and everything else you have. Now that doesn’t mean the relationship is a bad one but if you are so wrapped up in making that person happy you are dropping the ball in other areas of your life. That could even be not focusing on yourself.
There are ways to identify if a relationship is an energy sucker. For example do you drop everything when the person calls and asks you to do something? Even when you are working for something for yourself. Do you make decisions based on how it will affect them? Have you not done something because you didn’t want to anger said person?
Your relationships are important. However a relationship doesn’t always have to be based on one person. As important as they are you have to remember to set boundaries in your relationships to where you are being taken advantage of or forgetting about who you are as a person. Without boundaries you are given up so much of yourself. You may not even realize you are doing it. You just think that you are taking care of the ones that you love and then you blink. If the person in the relationship really cares about you they will make sure that you are focusing on you as well.
The important thing about realizing this is that I now know that I need to work to change my focus. Because it affects me emotionally and mentally. There are steps that I am going to take to not only improve my relationship but improve my relationship with myself. It is possible to do both at the same time. People will only respect you when you respect yourself. I have decided that I am no longer going to allow my energy to be sucked because I am worth so much more. The changes I am going to make will let me know who is true and who isn’t.