I have noticed this for awhile but haven’t done anything about it. For years I noticed that others speak to me in a manner that they would never speak to anyone else. I am always shocked when this happen. Cause I can see them speak with someone in a different manner than they do me. They give them an air of respect that I just don’t seem to get. I keep getting these epiphanies but change nothing. I realized that it was time to do something about it last week when I was dealing with a situation with a family member and said family member responded to me in a manner that I know wouldn’t have been done to anyone else. This exchange let me know that it is time to stop being a doormat and stand up for myself when others do something I don’t like. I usually just let it slide but then my poor husband has to hear me rant about it later. I mean sometimes I just have to get my annoyance off my chest. However he reminds me that if I had said something to the person in the first place that I may not have anything to get off my chest.
Epiphany came around like this. My family member has been getting phone service through my husband and I. This requires said family member to pay a monthly bill. Well the family member text me and told me that the service was no longer required. Everything changed once I responded back with if the service was no longer needed then there would be an early termination charge. We went back and forth and the tone of the text changed and in my opinion it got a little rude. I feel that if the family member were speaking to another person that the tone taken with me wouldn’t have happened. So this made me take a good look at myself and try to figure out why I am always having this done to me. So when I looked back at everything I decided it was because I lay down and take it. I however no longer want to be that way. I’m still going to let some things go but things that really bother me I will not.
So I have decided to add this to my list of many things that I need to improve about myself. I no longer am going to lay down and let people walk over me as if my feelings do not matter. I do understand that some of this is my fault because I hate confrontation. But I am now realizing I’m going to have to put my big girl panties on and confront when necessary. I do not deserve to be walked on by anyone. So I am removing the doormat. Cause the only way I’m going to get respect is if it I command it in some cases.