I never thought about how what I say about myself can affect the way my kids see themselves. I mean really who thinks about things like that. I guess some people do but not me necessarily. I would say negative things about myself and not think twice about my children hearing me. I also didn’t think that it would affect how they would see themselves.
I started thinking about this after hearing a comment my mother made about herself. It wasn’t a flattering comment and I remember us talking about it later and expressing to her how I wish she wouldn’t say such things about herself. She said that I was right. I began to wonder if that is where I got the image of myself from and became concerned that I was doing the same to my kids. Cause I know I can be just as bad as my mom sometimes. I’ve always been told by my family that I am pretty and gorgeous but it is hard to see it sometimes. I believe that my mom is a gorgeous person but when I hear her say negative things about herself it hurts my feelings. Then I realize I do the same thing as well. I have commented on my weight and other things that I didn’t like about myself. It actually takes me longer to do things like get dressed because I am so focused on what is wrong with me. My son and daughter have started to make comments about themselves. I have told them that they shouldn’t say such things about themselves and they tell me the same thing. My children have even told me that they don’t like the things they hear me say about myself. I am trying so hard to break this habit but it is so hard.
We try to promote positivity. Sometimes we make fun of ourselves as a joke which I guess is okay sometimes as long as we aren’t doing it all the time. Sometimes you want to beat people to pointing out your flaws before they do. As I work toward becoming a more positive individual I realize I may need to focus more on what’s great about me rather than what isn’t great about me. Like how I love my eyes or how I notice the weight I am losing. I am not saying I can’t notice the things that I want to fix about myself. I am just saying that it doesn’t have to be my main focus and I don’t have to beat myself up about it. I think that by being more positive about myself. I have a bad habit of becoming obsessed with what’s wrong with me. My kids do the same thing. So I hope that they notice the changes I am making and become more positive as well.
Are you negative or positive toward yourself? How do you encourage positivity in your home?