One thing I have struggled with is giving up some of my privacy as a parent and sometimes even as a spouse. I mean I have nothing to hide but at the same time I try to maintain a level of it for us all. I know it may sound totally weird but I think everyone should have something that is just theirs. Many may not agree but that is okay. Of course with children privacy is very limited. I give my kids privacy to a certain extent. I let them know that I have no quams about going into their areas and searching. They are children. However for me as an adult I feel I am entitled to have off limit areas.
Yesterday Nishe’ wanted to go in our closet and look for a pen. I told her that I would go and get it because I didn’t remember exactly where I had left it and I didn’t want her to be digging in our closet. I think that mine and The Husband’s closet should be an off limit area that they shouldn’t enter unless they are given permission. The Husband doesn’t agree. I think he thinks that I am being a little extreme but I just see that as our private area. Another thing that I see as private is my laptop. They can use it but they must have permission they cannot just decide they want to use it. I also don’t have a problem with them using my cellphone but they know they can’t do anything on without permission and they definitely can go searching through it. Which they wouldn’t do but that’s about it. Other than that they have free roam of the house. Oh and my wallet. They are not allowed to just go in my wallet. I do not go through my husband’s phone even if I use it. I have no problem with him using my phone again cause I have nothing to hide.
Now with them like I said they have privacy within limits. I do go through their book bags every day but they get privacy such as at this time they don’t have to worry about me rummaging through anything. If they have a diary/journal they don’t have to worry about me reading it. I would hope they would feel comfortable coming to their dad and I to talk even though they have it. Right now I don’t think either one of them have one. At least that what they told us. But as a parent our job is to protect them to the best of our abilities and that means having minimal privacy.
I guess what I am wondering is how do you feel privacy for yourself and your child? Do you have anything that is just completely off limits in your home?