As I have grown up I have come to realize that some things that people complain about you don’t understand unless it happens to you. I have had people complain about something that I was doing that I didn’t really think was a big deal until someone did that exact thing to me.
For example I now understand how The Husband feels when he tells me I did something that I had told him multiple times that I wouldn’t then instead of apologizing I would say how long it has been since I had done whatever it was. The way I found out was Princess S did the same thing to me on Thursday.
Thursday morning I got a phone call and it was Princess S asking me to see if her gym clothes were in her room. When it wasn’t that’s when she informed me that she had lost her gym clothes because she had left it in one of her classrooms after gym class. Why she didn’t put them in her locker I will never know. This is a source of irritation for me because she is notorious for losing things in
school. Last year she lost a jacket and left her gym clothes on the school bus. Luckily when she left her gym clothes on the bus that time she got them back. Also she has lost two library books. 1 in 3rd grade and 1 in 6th. Another in 5th but she found it. Since 6th grade she has been banned from the school library. Now the same day she lost her clothes she told me that her class is suppose to go to the library next week. I told her I don’t think she will be permitted to check anything out this year either. She asked me why and I pointed out that she lost her gym clothes that day and her other history. Her argument was that she should be able to go because she hasn’t lost anything in 2 months. I kindly pointed out to her that 2 months ago she wasn’t in school.
Anyway the whole point is as we were going back and forth the more she talked the more I felt as if I was talking to myself. Some of the same points she was using I had used before with The Husband and probably even with my parents. So next time something is pointed out to me that I have a history of doing I think I’ll apologize instead of focusing on how long it has been since I did it. Cause the length wouldn’t matter if I didn’t keep doing it. This parenting thing surely is a mixture of your kids learning from you and you learning from them. Definitely makes you pay more attention to your own actions. Cause you don’t want your kids mimicking everything you do. Especially not the bad habits.