I am big on respect. I give respect to everyone I come in contact with. I feel that everyone deserves respect. Now everyone doesn’t give it though. I am learning that sometimes to get respect you have to command it. That is one my biggest problems. I prefer to treat people the way that I want to be treated. I would rather be nice to people than to disrespect them because I’m angry. But now I am realizing that I am giving people the okay to say whatever they want to me because I don’t stand up for myself the way that I should. I never want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I have some things said to me that I am pretty sure people would never be bold enough to say to anyone they highly respected. I have been trying to figure out what makes people think that they are allowed to say the things they say to me. I am pretty sure I am not wearing a sign that says “This is the person to try”. Maybe it’s my nice demeanor. Often people try to disguise it as being blunt and honest when it is really just plain out rude and disrespectful. Saying what’s on your mind is just as bad as saying slick comments. Other times it is just a person’s delivery. I have had people say things that I needed to hear but it will completely go over my head because of the way they say it.
I have decided that whatever the case is it doesn’t really matter. I deserve as much respect as the next person. I know I definitely don’t have to respond to everything but I have to put my foot down for things that go to far. Especially being a mom I have to set the example for my children that they don’t have to take everyone’s mess just because I don’t like confrontation and don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I also I have to show them that if I do decide to address that there is a respectful way to do it. I am a quiet and kind of reserved person. I can be loud at times. But I will never get the okay for someone to mistreat me.
Stop giving people the right to think that they can treat you however they want. It is not okay for anyone to say or do anything to you that crosses any line that you have set. It doesn’t matter who they are family, friends, or a stranger. If they can’t respect your wishes then they shouldn’t be allowed to be around you. If people truly care about you then they will respect you at all times. Yes people may slip from time to time but they should be willing to apologize and move on. I hate that I know that I have allowed people to disrespect me for as long as I have. Now I am trying to teach my kids that they don’t have to do that. As always I know I don’t want them to repeat the mistakes that I have made. So I am just writing to encourage people to end any disrespect that they are receiving. It is okay to stand up for yourself within reason. If it hurts you then it isn’t helping you. Even if it is a joke it is not okay. Remember that you have to respect yourself first. If you keep allowing yourself to be the bud of jokes that make you uncomfortable, allowing people to speak to you any kind of way, or just blatantly disrespect you then you are not respecting yourself. No you do not have to fight just politely let them know that it isn’t okay. Then go from there.