La La Land Mommy: 5 Things That Could Hurt A Friendship
I have had the hardest times keeping friends lately. I understand that sometimes things change and friends grow apart but I can’t say that that is always the cause of a friendship ending. When I lose friends I try to figure out what I could have done to make things end the way that they do. It is not always a huge fall out either. No one has to always do something super hurtful. I know that I have my quirks and that can be too much for a person to handle at times. I want to figure out what I am doing so that I can be a better friend to my next friend. So I sat down to pick apart myself. No this is not a bad thing. Sometimes you have to step outside of yourself to better your relationships and yourself cause trust me you aren’t only this way with friends. You could come off this way to other people as well.
So this is what I have discovered about myself. These are things that I definitely need to work on:
- Oversharing: I overshare. Sometimes I just talk way too much. I have to realize everyone doesn’t want to continuously hear about my problems all the time. Everyone has their limits. I mean I don’t do this to everyone but once I get comfortable I just let go and sometimes I don’t realize how much complaining I do.
- Boundaries: In my case lack of any. I need to work on boundaries. Sometimes I just don’t set boundaries. That can be a problem when you let people into your world too quickly. If people don’t know what they can’t say then they assume they can say whatever they want or vise versa you can cross their line and not know it.
- Needy: I can be needy sometimes. Like I am that friend who is always looking for advice. I am working on this especially.
- You don’t hang out: When you aren’t available to get your friends time to hang out with you this can create distant. One thing that I find that stops me is the fact that I don’t like to drive too far out of my comfort zone which is places I am familiar with. Yet another thing I am working on. Either my husband drops me off or I just don’t go. Heck reading this I am shocked anyone wants to hangout with me at all.
- Not speaking up: If you don’t speak up when something is bothering you it can put a wedge between you and your friends because you have an attitude and they don’t bother you. I have a bad habit of holding things in. Then when it comes out it is in the wrong way. This is something else that I am working on.
These things can not only affect friendships but any relationship that you have. I would like to improve my relationship with not just my friends but my family too. I think that this will benefit me greatly in the long run.
What is something that you are working on with yourself?
