5 Ways You Are Allowing Negativity To Affect Your Life

5 Ways You Are Allowing Negativity To Affect Your Life

Have you been allowing negativity to seep into your life?

I found out the other day that I was. I’ve been trying to stay more positive these days. Looking at the positive side of negative situations. I thought I was doing pretty good until the other day. You see a few weeks ago something happened to me that really affected me. I really didn’t know how much it affected me until the other day when I was talking to The Husband. I was on social media and I saw a post. I quickly screen shot the post and sent it to a friend. See the post was written by someone that I had, had a recent falling out with. They had hurt me in the worst way possible. At the time of the situation I thought I had dealt with my feelings and emotions on it and thought I was moving on. Then I realized that I hadn’t once I did what I did. I am still harboring anger and hurt and it is preventing me from moving on. On top of that it is affecting other aspects of my life. My husband is a great guy but he can only hear about the same situation or hear me talk about the same people only so many times before I sound like a broken record or like I am so obsessed with a situation. Some of my decisions have been made based on this incident. I was basically going to change me. Which I actually had changed me but not in a good way. I was becoming someone that I did not like. Constantly thinking negative and always being worried about what the people who had hurt me was doing. Then I was giving them even more energy that I could put towards positive things by talking about them. I mean I was really all in. Now I have decided that I no longer want to be that person and I am going to put all that energy else where. Here are 5 ways for you to know if you are bringing negative energy into your life.

1. Are you still talking about that situation that hurt you minutes, hours, days, months, or years ago? Have you spoken to that person about it or what are you doing to move pass that situation? If you’re still talking about then you haven’t moved passed it.

2. How many different people have you told the story to? If it is more than you are willing to admit to then again you are stuck in the same place.

3. Do you have less than positive thoughts when you hear the person’s name or see them? If you do then you are blocking your blessings.

4. Their mere presence or the sight of them on social media cause you to act outside your normal self. For ex. posting a rant on twitter, Facebook, or any other social media platform.

5. Have you changed you to hide whatever the person pointed out that they didn’t like about you? If you don’t think there is anything wrong with you then why are you hiding. Change because you want to change for you not because someone else wants you to.

I have decided that this will no longer be me. I don’t always want to let the thoughts of others and I  feel that I should encourage others to moveout  of their negativity and move forward into positivity.

Have you checked any of these off your list? How are you going to move forward?