I have been thinking of ways that I could improve my relationship with The Husband. I mean I am always thinking of areas where I can improve. I mean who doesn’t want to improve their relationship every day. I don’t have a problem with learning and growing if it improves me and the important relationships in my life. Of course being a wife and mother are the two I hold dear to me right now.
Today as I sat watching yet another reality show. Ha ha ha!! Yes I admit it I am a reality show junkie. I was watching couples therapy. I actually watched the entire season this time around. Usually I lose interest mid way through. But I didn’t do that this time. Watching the couples made me think of what I can do to improve. Two things that I have thought about is made I can show him that I appreciate him more. I have moments to where all I do is take and take not realizing that I am not showing that I appreciate the things that he does for the kids and I. I have to think that not many women are lucky enough to have a husband or even a man like I do. Someone who is willing to put up with you flaws and all. I really am not an easy person to put up with at times. There are sides to me that no one but him has seen and it really isn’t pretty. But when the storm is over and I look and realize he survived I must say that I am impressed. It is amazing that he dealt with that part of me and is still here. I realize that sometimes simply saying thank you could make his day. I say thank you but not often. I sometimes forget to acknowledge the things that he does. I always seem to forget that although he is a man that he wants to be appreciated as well. I don’t know how but I grew up thinking men were tough and didn’t like being sensitive even though my dad is a man who was never afraid to show his emotions. So I am going to start showing more appreciation and showing that I think he is a wonderful guy. I am so lucky that I have a husband like mine, even though as I’ve said, it’s never always easy. It came as a surprise that when I finished watching couples therapy one afternoon, my friend messaged me saying that her and her husband had just come back from a session with Farah Premji, MSc (https://www.fpcounselling.com) as they are currently having some issues in their marriage, which is totally normal. She said that she was really helpful and was able to get to the route of some of their problems and they are now well on their way to creating a healthier marriage. Even though my marriage has never got to this stage, it’s good to know that there are people we can turn to for help.
I am also going to express when I need to feel more appreciated. There are times that I don’t feel that I am appreciated. I feel as if okay she is just doing whatever she is suppose to do. I don’t feel like that what I do is appreciated. Like him sometimes I want to here a thank you and that even don’t I don’t leave the home that what I do is a contribution and makes life livable . I have never been good at communicating my problems but I am working on it. Because the thing I want the most is for us to be on the same ground. I think that if we start to express our gratitude and appreciation for each other that it will help us in the long run. I think that this is a good start. So we will see if this helps to strengthen us.
