“You are ugly.”
“You are too dark.”
“You’re too skinny”
“You’re too fat.”
“You’re not good enough”
“You shouldn’t wear that”
“If you wore make up you would be prettier.”
“You look like a vampire with those teeth.”
These are just a few things I have heard over my life time. I could go on and on but I think you get the idea. Honestly these are the same things that I heard whenever I looked in the mirror to do anything. I do mean anything. Wash my face, brush my teeth, do my hair, or anything. Hearing those things can really take a toll on you. The sad part is I actually started to actually believe these things. Those hours it took me to get dress was mainly because I couldn’t decide what to wear because I didn’t want to hear those things. These things really shaped how I felt about myself. Then of course my body changed and then I had to learn to accept my new body. Meaning I’m not as skinny as I use to be. I am not who I use to be. I don’t remember the exact day but one day I was looking in the mirror and I was trying to get my hair just perfect. I looked in the mirror and told myself that no matter what I am beautiful. I just started saying it over and over again “I am beautiful.” I complimented myself on great things about me. I realized that I only look horrible because I accepted that other people thought I looked horrible. I could look in the mirror one minute and think I look great. Leave the bathroom and someone could just look like they disapprove and go back in the bathroom and start tearing myself down. It was just that easy. Now I am making it easier to accept myself. Whenever I walk in the bathroom whether it’s out loud or mentally I tell myself I am gorgeous or some sort of compliment.
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Now that doesn’t go to say that there aren’t things that I want/need to fix. But I don’t want to start fixing things as a broken person. I’ve learned that if you aren’t accepting who you are now you will never be happy. So I have decided I am going to accept the gorgeous woman that I am now. I am improving every day. I am challenging myself with my looks. Like I have definitely been wearing my hair out more. I feel that now that I’ve shed some of the negative now I can have a little bit more fun without feeling judged. Cause honestly no one was judging me harder than I am. As I come into my own more I am beginning to just enjoy life. I don’t know if it is age or what but as I move forward I am becoming even more free.
I’m doing what I can to make myself feel beautiful. I need to make sure I make myself feel gorgeous everyday. By accepting myself I am doing exactly what I need to do to make me feel great. I know if I feel it I will show it.
How do you make yourself feel good?
I make myself feel good by looking and feeling my best every day. Bringing out my best features.
This is a great thing to do. I like what you are doing.
I really like how you said that you didn’t want to start fixing things as a broken person. Great attitude! You are indeed beautiful luv.
Thank you. Sometimes if you are broken it is hard to fix it. I am still broken but I am starting to come together.
Words do hold a lot of power especially when we are younger and don’t really understand how to block, or counteract them. I’m happy that you see your beauty you are indeed a beautiful person!
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Thank you so much for that compliment. I really appreciate it. Sometimes you never really know how much you are holding on to until you let go of it.
I take a good look at myself in the mirror every day and give myself a nice approving smile! I am pretty happy with what is smiling back at me.
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I love this! I can feel your positivity through this comment.
First let me thank you for sharing this. I too was subjected to criticism and had to work to find my own beauty. It is a powerful tool. Sometime you just have to look yourself in the mirror and say I am beautiful until you believe it.
Getting that much criticism can really take the wind out of your sail. It is so hard to ignore.
Thank you so much for sharing this. It takes a lot of strength to find your inner and outer beauty but it is so necessary.
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Yes at times it is hard to find but once you find it, it can give you so much power.
Yes to all of this. I was never called ugly as a kid but I was the super skinny girl nobody was checking for. The boys wanted the girls with big butts and boobs. At almost 40, I’m still not that girl.It made me self-conscious about being so skinny. Even though it wasn’t something I could not control.
One day I just decided to like me for the way God made me. He doesn’t make mistakes so if I could find a way to love it so could someone else.
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Thank you for sharing your story. It is hard to ignore the comments but I definitely got through it. I still let negative stuff get to me sometimes but I am working on it.
Growing up I was told the same things. I really think our parents didn’t have the best positive examples of how to foster a love of self. My mom, who was overly religious, wasn’t a fan of self-esteem and thankfully I learn early on how to ignore negative influences. You are definitely beautiful. Thanks for sharing this transparent message.
Sometimes I think that parents think that they are being helpful when they actually aren’t. I try to be careful what I say to my kids. I don’t want them to only remember the negative things that I say.
People can be so cruel but I am happy you know your own beauty and worth. I make myself feel beautiful by just affiming to myself that I am.
Yes I had to force the negative comments out of my head and let only positive thoughts in.
To make myself feel good I simply do things that I like. For e.g. treating myself…
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Yes I realize that doing things that make me feel good is very important.