Great Dads Deserve To Be Honored On Father’s Day

When I think back over my life I smile. I feel that I am very blessed. I feel that I’ve been very lucky to be blessed with great men in my life. Two of these men play large roles in my life. One is my dad and the other is my husband.

My dad was the first man in my life. He was who I compared the boys I came into contact with to. He showed me exactly how a man should treat me. I have been blessed to have him in my life. I know not many children can say that. I was very fortunate to be raised in a two parent home. I knew i wanted the same for my kids. That unit and team. I think The Husband and I try our best to be on the same page with our children. I can’t say we always are but we do our best. I think my mom and dad did a great job of providing a great example. My dad is a great man. He did and still does everything he can for his family. He has been a shoulder to cry on, barber and has even shown up at our house to help us fix things around the house. My kids love him to pieces. I love my daddy so much and am happy that God blessed me with him.

I met The Husband 15 years ago working at Hardee’s. At the time we met I had no clue that he was going to be the man I was going to married. I didn’t know that until a few months later until one day when I was sick he dropped everything to bring me soup, juice, crackers, and a card that said get well. That’s also the day I started daydreaming of what kind of dad he would be. Then when we found out we were having Nishe’ four months into our marriage I was thrilled. Then when our baby girl came into the world and I saw their instant bond I knew he was going to be great. Then when our son Tyler came along 20 months later i was even more assured. He is an excellent father. I see this man do whatever he needs to for his family every day. He goes above just trying to keep a roof over our heads, clothes on our back and food in our bellies. He has over the years formed a true bond with our children. He has made sure that they know he will be there for them no matter what.

I feel that these two men and so many others deserve to have a day such as Father’s Day to be celebrated. Come on, even they would like to receive some handcrafted custom gifts or even some cute Dahlia Plants as a gift on this special occasion. Also, it’s not the gift that actually matters. It is the thought behind giving it. Once in a while, everyone likes to be made feel special and pampered. And, if they are stripped of that, I don’t think we are doing justice to the whole gifting thing. Just yesterday I saw a hash tag on twitter that said #endfathersday with various reasons as to why dads shouldn’t be celebrated. I won’t share the stupid reasons because I refuse to give them life. I just know the reasons to celebrate far out weigh the reasons not to. I’ve also seen this recent thing where cards are made to be given to moms on fathers day. Where are the cards for the dads who are both mother and father as well. Why do we as a society continue to bash men and then expect them to live up to our expectations? When you look at TV you pretty much see nothing but negative images of dads. From deadbeats to dads who have no clue what they are doing on many TV shows. I know that me as as mom do not have it all together. I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t have all the answers to this parenting thing. There are men who want to be fathers to their children but moms prevent that from happening. I just think we should be uplifting dads and not trying to bring them down. Acknowledge the biological dads, the step-dads, the foster dads, and those who step into father roles for their grandchildren, nephews, brothers, and cousins. I think it is completely unfair to try to take father’s day away from those doing what they are supposed to do.

I realize that some people just didn’t have that father role in their life at all. I also know that I will never understand what it is like to be a single mother. I hope that I never have to experience it. I commend the mothers who do it. Heck I truly admire them. I have women in my life who I know give their all to their children and go above and beyond to make sure they have what they need. I also have men in my life who do the same. I just think that we all should acknowledge those men who are the dad that they need to be for their children. Which I know is hard to do for some because they didn’t have that father figure in their life. Think how hard it is for them to be what they have never known and have only seen on TV. They just know what they want to be and do it. Just like the moms they just do what they need to do. That’s what I plan on doing today. This father’s day, I’ll celebrate the men in my life by giving them meaningful gifts and making the day as special as possible. They put in the work and they deserve this day!

Now before people get all upset. I’m not saying that people should not be upset with the men who are not stepping up. I’m saying that they shouldn’t try to #endfathersday because of those men. I understand that children may hurt. I think that this day should be turned into something else for them like take them out to dinner or a fun day. Like i said this is something I will never understand. But I do sympathize. I’ve seen what the effects of not having a father in a child’s life can do and i don’t deny that some men don’t deserve the previous gifts God has blessed them with. However I do know some men who realize they’re blessings and appreciate them.

When honoring our dads this father’s day, it’s important to make them feel special and loved. For most of the year, they may go about their duties as a father with little thanks, so now is the time to show them that you appreciate them and all they do for you. Whether that be with some colorful fashion design socks or by pampering them, take the time to care for their needs. You don’t have to do anything big, but sometimes the best thing to do is something big! Consider building him a man cave in the garden or in his basement and decorate it with all of his favourite things. Visit www.neonfilter.com to get the lighting perfect and then it’ll be time for the big reveal. He might be so touched that he even cries, but that’s ok! Alternatively, you could throw him a party, or even just go for dinner with him to spend some good quality time together. He deserves some special treatment for all he does.

Now I realize some people may not agree with my opinion and i welcome your difference of opinion but please be respectful. Any disrespectful comments will be deleted.