I am learning that high school prepares you for the real world in more ways than you think. I have found that all the cliques and stuff you deal with in high school can actually prepare you to deal with the same thing in the workplace or anywhere in general. When I started my current job I went in with the notion that I would be my nice friendly self like I normally am. I mean who else would I be. But I am quickly finding out that I can’t just be that person. Because I just don’t seem to fit in. Well I fit in with the kids that is who is most important However some of my co-workers are a different story. They don’t seem to want too much to do with me. I have this one co-worker who for whatever reason just doesn’t seem to like me. She is very curt and can sometimes be very rude. Some people try to convince that, that is just the way she is. I call BS. I have seen her speak to other co-workers and is no where near as rude as she speaks to me. I honestly don’t know why she doesn’t like me. I really don’t care. I think that the thing that bothers me is that as far as I know I haven’t done a thing to her. I never understand how someone doesn’t like someone who hasn’t done anything to them. I have come to realize that is fine. I don’t want to deal with folks that I just don’t get a long with. So I say as little as possible to them. We only discuss work related things. I mean we haven’t had any arguments or anything. I’ve just learned a long time ago to take hints, clues, signs, or whatever you want to call them. That saying “They just aren’t into you” goes with when you are trying to form friendships as well.
La La Land Mommy: I Come To Work To Work Not To Make Friends
So I’ve decided that I’m going to go in, do my job, and then go home. I don’t need to make friends at work. I mean if I do that is cool. But that is not my mission. I hoped that there was a possibility but I am good. As long as we get along when it comes to getting our job done and we are polite to each other then I am fine. It doesn’t have to go beyond that.I’ve learned that it isn’t necessary to be friends with everyone. I am fine with that. My job that helps pay bills is the most important thing to me. I don’t have to be friends with everyone I come in contact with. It would be nice but not necessary. I am going to go into work and do just what I am suppose to do and that is work. That is the line that I have decided to draw for myself. Work is work that’s it. I will be nice and cordial but once I leave that is that. I appreciate those that I do getting along with. But yeah no need to be buddy/buddy at this point and time. I am there to work not to make friends.
Great article. Comparing high school and work friendships are so synonymous.
Thank you! There really is no difference. There is always some kind of drama.
Honestly some people never actually leave high school. I’m convinced.
I so agree with you. I realized that a long time ago.
Yes, you do have to keep work separate and do what you are being paid to do and go home. They aren’t paying you to be friends anyway, so if they don’t like you, that’s their loss. Keep doing you!
Thank you!
Oh girl when I worked in corporate I learned the hardway how you cant be friends with some of your co-workers like that. I even had a group of women so jealous of me they conspired to get me fired together because I was working harder than them and didnt go to lunch daily wghith them. So catty but it taught me a real life lesson – dont trust your co-workers all the way.
I often find myself saying how much grown people act like kids or like we are in high school at work. It’s a shame but true.
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Great Post…and very true! Everyone is not your friend, and every situation doesn’t require you to make friends with everyone
Thank you!
It definitely can be like that at times! People are funny! I’m grateful I can call a few of my co workers friends and one I even call a sister!
It is great that you have that environment. I agree people definitely can be funny. I run form those people.
I swear some adults still act like teenagers. I run into this at my job as well. Cliques and people acting funny. I am the same way as you. I go to do my job and leave. I get along with more people than not, but I’m not there to add anyone to my circle of friends. Just keep it cordial and keep it moving.
All of this!
I’ve haven’t worked an out of the home job since 2011 and when I did work a regular job I always got along with my coworkers and we didn’t have awkwardness between us, but I wouldn’t go as far as to call them friends. We had fun at work while doing our jobs, shared laughs, did lunch together, etc, but after work, we weren’t buddy/buddy hanging out. I often yearn to get a side gig out of home for more interaction with people because online there are “cliques too”. I have that same mindset as an entrepreneur, I’m networking to make professional connections not necessarily make friends. I totally get what you’re saying though because as a younger mom when I do group stuff with my kids I’m always left feeling like an outsider due to the other moms being older, etc. It sucks, but at the end of the day people are always judging someone for something.
You hit exactly what I am talking about on the head. You find cliques everywhere. I’ve noticed them in the virtual world as well.
Thanks for sharing I couldn’t agree more very straight forward post.
Thank you!
This is a lesson I’ve definitely had to learn in life. I’m happy now that I work mostly for myself doing Media stuff. Finding people you mesh well with at work can be challenging. Seems like you have the right attitude to deal with this!! Kudos to you!
It has served me so well. I am just focusing on me and what I need to improve.
Sometimes it does happen where you don’t end up making friends with the people you work with, but I think it’s fine as long as there is a level of respect amongst your coworkers.
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I totally agree. The main thing I want is respect. We don’t have to be friends.