Sometimes I suck in the wife department. I tend to drop the ball in the romance department. I can use as many excuses as I want. I’m tired. I’ve gotten busy. But the truth is I’ve never been that great at romance. I don’t know why. When I try I feel pretty awkward. Where it comes easy for most it doesn’t come that easy to me. I am pretty sure it is because I go in with the expectation that he either isn’t going to like my attempt or I am going to look crazy. He has always been better in the romance department than me. He is a very creative guy. He has surprised me with gifts and can be very sweet.
Usually when I try to get romantic things end up like this:
I have to remind myself that my husband stills likes to be wooed as much as I do. All men actually do. They like surprises like us women do. My lack of confidence has really affected all areas of my life and I never realized it until now. I also tend to overthink things. Now I am challenging myself to do better in that area. Even if it is just planning a small date for us. He is usually the planner for most things that we do. I guess I’m so used to him planning things that my efforts have fallen by the wayside. I admit it. When we were dating I was a little more romantic than I am now. I remember I used to purchase Presale Codes for his favorite artists’ shows to surprise him with a concert on special occasions. So I think it’s time that I work back towards something like that. Then it is also me focusing on all the things that I don’t have. I am not as small as I used to be. But I want to be even better than I was before. I know sometimes it is just about the effort. But I want him to enjoy my effort. I want to surprise him with gifts. I just want to show him that I love him as much as he loves me. I just have to learn to stop questioning myself in everything that I do.
La La Land Mommy: I Am Not The Romantic One
If you are like me you totally understand where I am coming from. We get so use to someone else taking the reins in certain areas of our lives that we just never take the reins ourselves. So I am vowing to take the reins in more areas of my life including being more romantic. I want him to know that I think of him. I think I am going to start by planning a date. I will do some research for date destinations. One of my friends might have suggested an article on how to increase pheromones naturally; I think I might check that out to spice up things between us. I am definitely going to do something. I think it will be fun to see what I can come up with.
What about you guys? Who is the more romantic one in your relationship? What sort of dates do you prefer? And do you have any particular incident to share with us? You can drop the comments down below!!
