I’m Tweaking My Parenting Style

La La Land Mommy: I’m Tweaking My Parenting Style

One of my number goals in life is to be the best parent that I can be to Tyler and Nishe’. I try to pay attention to the things I say and do because I always want to be a good example to them. Lately I’ve been noticing that I have a pretty short fuse. It doesn’t take much to get me to fussing and screaming. I couldn’t figure out why my patience has been so short. Then I figured it out. I have been frustrated with having to remind them to do some of the things that I think should be second nature to them by now. Especially those things that are attached to some of their privileges. Which is pretty much everything if I’m honest. Lately though I have been annoyed with their care of our two cats Jojo and Oreo our new addition who has been with us for almost two weeks. They just haven’t been exactly doing everything they should. Changing the litter box when they should and giving the cats attention. I think it would be a good idea if they get a custom cat pillow for these two cats. They could at least have a nice sleep. In an effort to not be a nagging parent, I’ve been trying not to fuss. I try to give kind reminders and tips. Same with trying to encourage them to study more. I was at my wits end. Then I happened to dvr Oprah’s shows Soul Sunday and Oprah’s Life Class and a whole new way of parenting came to light. My children are my world and this why I am constantly trying to invest money to improve our future together. If you are too, you should visit sites like keyadvice.co.uk for more information.

Why did these two shows open up my world? Well it was because of the subject manner. Oprah’s guest Dr. Shefali Tsabary was speaking about her book The Conscious Parent on Soul Sunday. She and Oprah were talking about some of the things in the book and a number of things stood out to me. For example one thing Dr Tsabary said was “When you parent it’s crucial to realize you aren’t raising a mini me but a spirit throbbing with it’s own signature”. This quote spoke to me mainly because I feel like sometimes I’m more so trying to be a mini grown up like me and I am not realizing that even at their ages of 14 and 12 that they are still children and they are going to need reminders on occasion. Yes they have responsibilities and should take care of them but they are also still children so I am going to try to be more patient cause even adults still need reminders on occasion.

On the show Oprah’s Life Class Dr. Shefali Tsabary also talked about her book but she also spoke with a panel of parents. She said so many things that rung true on this show that I had to write them down. Now I won’t share them all but I will share the ones that really had an effect on me and why.

The first quote that had an effect me was:

This quote meant something to me because I am not always an example of who I want my children to be. I have my days when I am not always responsible or doing the things that I should. Usually when my kids see The Husband and I doing what we are suppose to do they do what they need to do. So I’m thinking maybe I need to step up my game in that department cause I do have the tendency to wait until the last minute to do things that I should do earlier. This also goes with when I am encouraging my kids to pursue their dreams.
Another quote that spoke to me was:

This one really hit home. I don’t know why I never thought of it this way before. There are some natural consequences for some things. This has inspired me to look at parenting in another way. There are some natural consequences when you think about it. So if they don’t study of course naturally they fail their course and then their is a consequence to that as well. Then it is up to them to figure out what they are doing wrong. I am going to try to take a calmer approach to parenting thing and try to be more patient. I don’t necessarily have to always nag or scream and shout. I don’t want to make my kids afraid to speak their mind or afraid to talk to me. I also don’t want them to feel like that everything they do is wrong. I want to have a great relationship with my children so I thinking taking a softer approach to parenting will help both them and I. I know that some people do struggle though when it comes to making time for their children. This might be for a load of different reasons. However, there are many different things that you can do to help you with raising your children. If you are struggling because you have to work and don’t have the time to pick your children up from school for example. Then you might want to consider after school care, a nanny, or even employing an au pair. Becoming an au pair has become an increasingly popular thing for young adults to do as it helps them explore new country. If you are a young person who is interested in becoming an au pair then you can go on a site like Cultural Care Au Pair, as this will give you a better idea of how you can apply for this sort of role. There’s no shame in hiring someone to help you out, you could even ask your friends or family to help you out if you would prefer to do it that way. As long as your kids are looked after and are happy then it’s fine.