Sometimes when I am talking about my dreams to The Husband I notice that he is half listening at times or he is giving the perfunctory yeah, uh-huh, okay. Whenever he did this I would always get offended and automatically assume that he just wasn’t interested in my dreams or he didn’t believe in me. Of course I am not thinking of the fact that I am saying the same dreams all over again. How I want to finish the book I am writing, how I want to make money from my blog, how I want to lose weight, how I want to do this and that. Just the same things over and over again. I have been saying the same freaking things for years. My good friend does it sometimes too. She sit and listen and then at the end she’ll go okay Katherine. Sometimes she will even say her favorite line “I will believe it when I see it. I get all up in my feelings thinking “Wow! They are just expecting me to fail.” Nope that’s not true at all. It’s not them, it’s me.
Here’s the truth. It’s not that they don’t believe in me. It’s that they are tired of hearing the same thing over and over again and not seeing any results. It’s just like listening to politicians make all these promises to make the United States better and here we are years later waiting for it. But we are not here to talk about politics. We are here to speak truth. I am a bigger talker than I am a person to put things in action. I am one of those people who takes my sweet time doing things. But some things need a little more action and it needs to be a little quicker. I am to blame for years of wanting things and not getting them. Not being where I want to be. I have these moments where I am really motivated and then suddenly I will lose it. Once I get into these dumps I don’t know how to get myself out. But if I want to people to see my vision I need to make sure I am taking action. It’s pretty hard for people to see you when you aren’t showing them. Here’s what I am doing to show the ones I love that I am motivated:
La La Land Mommy: It’s Not Them, It’s Me
- I am being more consistent. Well I am trying to be more consistent. It is really hard. I make sure I am consistently working on one of my dreams every day.
- I am getting more organized. I am trying to get more organized. I realize when I’m not organize it makes me lose focus so I am trying to organize my life.
- I am making time for my dream. Sometimes I just allow life to get in the way. When that happens I tend to forget what I am trying to achieve. So I have to remember to leave time to continue to work on me.
- Making a schedule. I am going to try to make a schedule to fit in time to work on my dreams.
- Giving myself a time limit. Because I am an overthinker I find that I definitely need to give myself a time limit. I have found that if I don’t have a time limit I will spend more time on one thing than necessary.
- I am talking more. I am trying to open up more about the progress I am making. Sometimes people can’t support what they don’t know or understand.
I am realizing that I can’t expect people to root for me if I’m not making moves. If I am not supporting my own dreams I can’t expect others to do it either. Yes I want support but I need to do things that make them want to support me.
I love when we hold ourselves accountable for our actions! This changed my life when I really tapped into this. You are in the right direction!
Exactly. Sometimes we just have to own up to our own stuff. It’s usually the only way that we can move forward.
That is the one thing I love about my husband is that he supports me 100% and he works very hard at making sure he is supporting me and helping me figure out what my strategic goals should be.
I love that your husband supports you that way. My husband gives me tips in and there. I didn’t really listen before though.
Consistency. Get use to saying & hearing that word. Get use to following up on what you want to do. Get use to making your goals come true.
I definitely am planning on doing that. I want to look back and be able to say I accomplished something.
Here’s my take…when we keep repeating our dreams we are looking for more than an uh huh. We want support and encouragement and sometimes that’s all it takes to get started. Some people do amazing things when they get verbal affirmation. Tell your dreams to a life coach and watch what happens! You will make some moves. You may fail, you may succeed, but you will make some moves toward your goals for sure (if you’re serious).
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I’m like your husband. I need to see it in order to believe it. At least you’re being consistent. That’s a step in the right direction.
Great post and I wish you the best n reaching your goals . I do have my husband ‘s support and encouragement , which I so appreciate. I will say what works for me is not doing number 6. Talk Less, do more. I find that when I move in silence I am more focused.
We all have sooo many “dreams”. A good plan and consistency are usually what make it happen. I wish you well on your journey!
First step to make any changes in your life is admitting any shortcomings. I see you are making more progress so keep affirming and keep executing.
I’m so happy that you became self-aware during these moments. I think a lot of us can appreciate this post and resonate with you. We all been here before.
Thank you for stopping by. I really appreciate you reading.
I am guilty of this in some areas. Fitness is a big struggle for me and I sing the same song with no action.
Yes I am really trying to be more action and less talk.
The steps you are taking will help you see everything clearly and you will see progress.
I am hoping so. I want to improve so badly.
Great job! I admire you for taking the steps! Having a plan is the key and also consistency!
Thank you so much! I am trying to do more self reflection so that I can improve myself.
It can be so hard to keep it real with yourself, so kudos to you for the self reflection. And also for acknowledging your wins, as they also move us forward.
Thank you so much. You can’t change if you don’t take a good look at yourself. I try my best to make sure I pay attention to me.
Good for you for noticing this about yourself and putting action to your dreams! It’s important that we check ourselves first and foremost. Great you have your hubby to back you up!
Yes he helps me out. I have to put in the work to make people get behind me.