La La Land Mommy: The Mistakes of Others Can Improve Your Life
The other day I was on Instagram and I came across a picture of Steve Harvey and it had the caption “Been divorced 3 times. Has 7 kids by 3 different women, but want to give relationship advice”. I looked at this and just shook my head. Why you may ask? Well this is because whoever the author of this meme was just didn’t get it. They are implying that because someone made a mistake in their previous relationships or their life in general that they can learn nothing from them. I totally disagree with this. I believe that people like Mr. Harvey are the best people to learn from.
I have learned a great deal from people who have made mistakes. Heck this country has been formed on the mistakes of others. How did slavery end if people didn’t realize it was a mistake to treat people the way that they were being treated? We raise our children based on the mistakes that we made as children or the way we were raised. I know there are many people who choose not to spank their children because they didn’t agree with their parents doing it to them when they were younger. Many inventions have been improved or created through trial and error. If you don’t make mistakes and teach it to someone how would we know what work and what didn’t. Most everything we have has come from someone’s mistake or someone taking time to make the mistake over and over again until they got it right. It is okay to make mistakes in the modern world. However, what matters is how much we learn from our mistakes and on whom we rely for help. Let’s say you have been involved in a drunk driving accident. In your mind, what would be the first thing you would do? It could be along the lines that you have committed a mistake and you shouldn’t have driven the vehicle drunk. As a result of being in such a serious situation, you may have access to reputed lawyers like Salwin Law Group who can protect you from any criminal charges. Therefore, as you move forward with the incident, you might always be cognizant of not repeating the same mistake.
This post is not about defending Steve Harvey. I just used him as an example. I have seen and heard many people say that they can’t learn from someone who has been married multiple times, have multiple children by different people, didn’t finish high school, was a drunk or a drug addict or been to jail. Especially the last two. But if you were to just think about most of your decisions in your life you may just come to realize that some of the things you don’t do because you saw someone else screw up. For example, think about the first time you took a class in elementary, middle school, or high school about the horrors of drinking and driving, doing drugs, and smoking. Remember the videos they showed you or even the visitors they had. Who better to relay the adverse effect of drugs than a former addict, or about the consequences of breaking the law better than someone who had been behind bars? Someone who has struggled to get their life back together, either by undergoing rehabilitation at Arista Recovery or similar rehabs or by serving time in jail, might be able to give you a clear picture to prevent you from going down that path. As compared to books and new reports, that is.
I remember the exact moment I knew I was never going to pick up a cigarette. I was in 6th grade and we were in health class talking about the dangers of smoking. They had already scared the life out of me with pictures and videos. But my wake-up call actually came when this guy came into our class. He stood at the front of the class and tried to talk. He was showing us that he couldn’t talk. Then he pressed this thing (can’t remember what it was called) against his throat and this kind of robotic voice came out. He let us that smoking did it to him. He had gotten cancer of the throat and it made it so he couldn’t speak. If he had not lived the life he did I wouldn’t know how smoking could affect you. I learned a valuable lesson. Many people would fall for smoking even if they are aware of the consequences. Some of them try to switch to vaping after becoming chain smokers by finding the best e liquid so that they consume less nicotine. When compared to smoking, this could be less harmful. If smokers do decide to go to vaping instead of carrying on with smoking, they want to make sure that they are doing the right thing and opting for premium products that will not affect them in the same way constant nicotine has. They can visit a vape shop online as well as see if there is a local one, so they can talk to the owners and decide on what type would be best for them.
I am a firm believer in not being able to erase your past but helping others not to repeat your mistakes. There are so many mistakes that I have made that I don’t want my kids to repeat. I don’t fault anyone else from doing the same. So I say if you use the knowledge of your past to help others I don’t see the problem.
Do you think you can learn from other person who has made mistakes in their past?
