La La Land Mommy: It’s Okay To Say I’m Sorry
One of the things that I really have a problem with is saying I am sorry. Even if I am in the wrong I have a tough time saying it. But I really have a problem with it if I think I didn’t do anything wrong. I go through this thing where I have to explain why I’m not wrong or why whatever is bothering my husband (he is the main one I have trouble saying I’m sorry to.) is silly or just not right. This kind of puts a strain on our relationship because it is basically all the time. I am so hung up on proving I’m right or what I did wasn’t a problem that my simply acknowledging that I hurt him goes right out the window. A few nights ago I was laying in bed just thinking like I usually do. I am usually the last one to go to sleep. It gives me that quiet time to just reflect on my day. In the mornings I get those few minutes after my husband goes to work. Anyway back to my point. It dawned on me that sometimes I do not have to argue about how right I am or how silly I think whatever he is angry about is. The most important thing is to acknowledge that I hurt my husband. Cause let’s be honest I have had really silly reasons to be upset. Not everything is going to make sense. But also if I make everything an argument it makes it harder for us to come back to each other. I mean I’m learning that arguments should be saved for the really important stuff. Not over things like who left toothpaste in the sink. Now this doesn’t mean I am going to say I am sorry for every little thing but sometimes it is better to say I am sorry than to always argue. Sometimes I am that person who just wants to argue first and then say I am sorry later.
As we continue to navigate our relationship together and grow I hope to learn more. I mean aren’t we always growing. I say I am never done growing up. The day that I am done will be the day I have nothing else to learn which in my eyes will be never.
Do you have a hard time saying I’m sorry.
