This Self Love Monday is special to me. Well all of them are but this one is definitely a special one. Remember Self Love Monday is where we pat ourselves on the back for our accomplishments. It doesn’t matter how small or big they are or when they were. We just want to learn to celebrate ourselves. If we don’t do it then who will. I am excited to announce that I am in love! Yep you my title right. I am in love with me. I have struggled with loving me for years. I was always the first one who will cut me down before anyone. Years of being bullied made it easier for me to accept the negative things said about me and then apply them to myself. I got to a point to where when I looked in the mirror all I could do is see the horrible things that others thought about me and the things I thought about myself. I have tried to turn it around but it is so hard to change my mind set. One of my goals this year was to be more positive with myself and challenge myself. I must say that I think I am finally on the right path. I am starting to see the beauty in me and all I am. I am going to share with you the way that I got to this point.
- I started thinking more positive thoughts about myself. I would wake up in the morning and compliment myself. It would be something as simple as good morning beautiful or you are worthy.
- I started celebrating my own wins. If I did something that made me happy and I accomplished something I would congratulate myself.
- I started to do more things that make me happy. I started to put my happiness first. My family is still first but I try to find time to make myself happy.
- I started making myself be uncomfortable. I have begun to challenge myself to do things that make me uncomfortable. Not too uncomfortable but things that put me comfortably out of my comfort zone.
- I started listening to my body. If I was tired, I wouldn’t force myself to stay awake to finish something that could be done in the morning. If I felt intimate, I would tell my partner and we would enjoy a night together (or I used a tickle vibrator if he wasn’t at home). If I felt angry, I would find different ways to calm myself instead of taking it out on other people.
- I started getting “They” out of my head. Basically, I started worrying about what other people might think and started worrying about my thoughts.
- I started to lovingly fix the things I didn’t/don’t like about me. I stopped seeing the things that I need to work on in a negative light. I see them as a way positive direction for improving me.
- I started to put more effort into my clothes. I started dressing better and started dressing more for my body type.
La La Land Mommy: Self Love Monday_ I Am In Love……..With Me!
As I become more comfortable with my body and who I am I find that I’m not afraid to do things that challenge me. Last weekend, I actually wore one of my sports bras out in public. I know this seems like nothing to some people but for me, this was a big deal. I was always afraid of what people would think if I did it. So instead of overthinking everything I just went ahead and did it. It felt so amazing. It was really freeing. I felt amazing and just enjoyed doing it while I rode my bike.
It felt good to not be afraid. When I actually did it I realized nobody cared what I was doing. So most of the negative thoughts were my own. So I am glad I did it. How did you challenge yourself?
