La La Land Mommy: Sometimes A Positive Lifestyle Means Letting Go
I am beginning to realize that sometimes the way to a positive lifestyle means letting go of some of the things that is not helping you live that lifestyle. That could be a friendship, a job, a relationship, or anything. Sometimes you have to just let go. Cause if your goal is to be more positive you really shouldn’t be holding on to anything that it is making you feel negative in anyway. Your happiness is the most important thing. So if whatever you are dealing with is not serving a purpose you should let it go.
I realized last week that I was trying to hold on to a friendship that was never really a friendship in the first place. The person who I was trying to spark a friendship just isn’t interested. Honestly I don’t think she even knows that I was trying to be her friend. But that is okay because I have decided that I am done trying. There are plenty of more friendships that I could create. In fact I was probably blocking those friendships by trying to spark this one. I have been known to do this in the past. Trying to be friends with someone who clearly was not wanting that friendship. I honestly think that it says more about me rather than them. I have always just wanted to be friends with everyone. I am not stalking or anything. I would just reach out from time to time and get no response. I am just learning that after you try a few times some things are just not meant to be. So that is the one thing that I am ready to let go. I am learning to take a hint. It is not serving me in a positive way. No this is not a post about calling someone out. I don’t do that. I am just coming to a realization as to how I am putting all my energy into something that I shouldn’t be. It is not a positive way to go. You have to stop clinging to things that do not lift you up and only hold you back.
Another thing I am trying my best to let go is negative thoughts. I am trying my best to be more positive nowadays. Trying to challenge myself to do things that I want to do but I usually talk myself out of. I always come up with a reason why I shouldn’t try.
I am also letting go of toxic people. I want people in my life who are positive like me and have goals. Since negativity can be contagious I want to keep that out of my life. I definitely don’t want people around me who do nothing but rain on my parade. So of course I can’t keep those type of people around me.
The last thing I am working on letting go is things from my past. I am realizing that if I keep using my past as an excuse I am not going to be able move forward. I want to continue to move forward in a positive way.
So what are the things you’re working on letting go?
One of the biggest things we can do to live a more positive life is let go of the negative things holding us back. It’s not giving up, it’s moving on.
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I think this is such an important point. Letting go isn’t the same as giving up. You can’t fix everything, and you can’t change everything.
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UGH. I could have written the friendship paragraph. I think I’m trying just because we were friends back in the day. We don’t have that much in common anymore, and it makes me sad.
Yes it is really sad. I understand where you are coming from. It is hard to accept that you have grown apart from someone.
There’s no point in trying to connect with someone who isn’t receptive. I totally understand that! Letting go is good for your soul.
Yes. I’m the person who will try over and over again. I’m trying to stop that.
Oddly enough, I often feel I let go of things too easily, especially people. I believe that life is too short to be unhappy, so if I find an obstacle on my path to success, I do everything in my power to remove it.
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Yeah you definitely have to find a balance. But I find that if people are meant to be in your life they will find a way back.
I definitely agree. I have had to let go of certain things in my life that were holding me back. It can be hard, but the reward will come when you have a happier life because of it.
You are so right. That’s what I’m beginning to realize.
Amen to all of this! Life is too short for everything you described. Somehow getting older makes us more clear on the value of our time, the value of time in general; why spend it with people who don’t celebrate you and life in general?
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That is so true. As you age got realize what is more important.
When I decided to make a positive change in my life, I had to let almost everything go. I moved away from the environment I was in and started over. Drastic times call for drastic measures. Great share.
I find I hate letting go but at the same time it is necessary.
It is really important to let go of the negative things and try to focus on the positive things. This is a great post!
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Thank you. I appreciate you stopping by. I’m looking for most positive experiences so I am definitely going to have to let go of some things.
Letting go is so important to do. You can not keep carrying around all the little things that can drag you down. I am trying to learn to let go of the things that are not in my control.
I think that is why letting go is hard for me. I want to control what is happening but I can’t.
It really is important to let go of negative feelings. It helps you more than anyone else too. 🙂
I am finding out sometimes it is for the best.
I found this out the hard way. I have some toxic family relationships and they were just killing my spirit. I finally had to break free of those people, even though we were blood. It hurt but I knew it was the right thing to do.
Yes letting go of family is so hard. I’ve done that too.