I have been thinking about how people only like to really hear the good things about them but not really the negative. Like I enjoy hearing positive things but for me to really reach my full potential I have to be willing to hear what I call the ugly truth. Cause honestly if you don’t know what you need to work on you will never know how far you can go. Personally I would rather hear the truth over a bunch of lies and people sugar coating it.
Now I haven’t always been able to hear the negative things about myself. Then I realized it was more about how it was delivered that got me in my feelings. I feel if you come to people with respect and care they can better hear you. For example if you walk up to me and I don’t know you and you say “hey you’re fat you need to lose some weight” I am definitely not going to hear. If you start critiquing everything I eat. Again I won’t hear you. But if you are someone who cares and you say “Hey I am a little concerned about you have you considered this.” I may be more open to hearing you. Some people wonder why people are more willing to listen to a doctor or someone they may not know over someone who cares about them. Here’s why it’s their approach. A doctor, well most doctors, know how to tell you that you need to lose weight without being harsh or brutal. They may treat you with appropriate medicines, advanced aesthetic equipment, and provide the necessary guidance to lose weight. Similarly, a psychiatrist can also explain how a person is feeling versus the actual person.
Me personally I can hear the ugly truth better when people come to respectfully and I can tell they actually care. Honestly the changes I have made in my life is due to me looking at myself but also because people told me the truth. My friend real keep it real with me. She doesn’t sugar coat anything and I appreciate her for that. She is quick to tell me if something doesn’t look right on me. I had a blogger buddy contact me in messenger on Facebook and told me I was ruin my reputation by saying I would come to events and not showing up. I so appreciated her for that. But then there are the people who don’t have that ability. I was once told on Facebook in my comment thread that I needed to fix my teeth. While I agree I need dental work, and I have been told by (nicer) people about various dentists that can help, similar to the dentist in LaGrange – Cornerstone Dental, and others like it, I didn’t appreciate the way she did at all. But those who came to me nicely I was able to take their advice and use it to benefit me.
But even with people who don’t have the tack I’ve learned to take the advice that I found useful and make it work for me. I think I am better because I learned to listen to the ugly truth. If I hadn’t heard it I would still be walking around with the same problems. I really feel that the ugly truth has actually helped me become a better me. Sometimes I need the raw truth to do what’s necessary. Can you handle the ugly truth?
To be honest the truth must bothers me. It’s the lying I hate. (He is a strong word) but the only word that works. Judy don’t lie to me I don’t care what the outcome will be.
That makes sense to me. But as soon as you tell people the truth about themselves they tend to get angry.