While Christmas and Christmas vacation is around the corner I was reminded yesterday about how stressful this time of year can be for kids especially teenagers in high school. Christmas break begins Friday evening for us. That means that the kids are taking their exams at the end of the week. So while they are looking forward to well earned vacation they are also dealing with the stress of exams because this signifies the end of the semester. See we often say kids have it easy but we forget that they have stressful times too. My daughter had a full on breakdown yesterday because she was worried about passing her exams. Luckily for me I have found some techniques that help her calm down but I also like to arm her with tools that will help her avoid getting to that point and ways that I can help her too. Below I have found things that work for us:
- Positive talk: I let my daughter know that while I want her to pass her exams and anything that she does the most important thing to me and her dad is that she does her best work. I want her to at least try.
- Meditation: I told Nishe’ and Tyler that before each test or exam that they should take a few seconds or minutes to just breathe and calm down.
- Sleep: We as Nishe and Tyler’s parents make sure that she gets a good night’s sleep especially before major test and exam.
- Healthy meal: I make sure Nishe and Tyler have a great meal for breakfast in the morning.
- Pep talk: I try to give my kids a pep talk every day to encourage them to do their best and to put their best foot forward.
- Relax: Give them a few minutes to decompress after their school day. It will make them re-energize and be able to study for the next day.
I find that the most important thing I can do for my children is to let them know that if they don’t get a perfect score that it isn’t the end of the world and their father and I won’t love them any less. I tell them that as long as we know they are giving a hundred percent that’s all we can ask for. Also if they don’t do as well as they want to we are willing to help them to get where they want to be. We want them to do their best but not where they will stress too much over it.